From my limited contact with LaViolette (just what I've seen during this trial) she is willing to twist the aggressor/victim scenario at will, to accommodate portraying Jodi as the victim. This is bullshit. She questions if Travis was fearful of Jodi because of her stalking behavior, then why did he continue seeing her? Yet she uses that exact scenario to portray Jodi as a victim by claiming even though she was fearful of Travis, she continued to see him. LaViolette paints this picture of domestic violence victims as women who despite their fear, stay with abusive spouses/partners because they fear the more real consequences of trying to leave their abuser. She speaks eloquently of how fearful Jodi was, but how she was compelled to stay with him, and yet when the script is flipped and Travis is fearful and staying with her, LaViolette's distain and disgust is evident.
LaViolette talks about a 'continuum' of aggression—a chart that documents the escalation of aggression starting from less violent acts like abusive language, and culminating in the most violent acts, like murder. What she doesn't speak about is the continuum of victimization from the abused point of view. I would like to present a concept that takes into account the psychological and sociological markers of victims as they're presented with those individual and aggregate acts on the continuum of aggression scale.
Just as aggression within relationships typically starts off slowly, and even relatively benignly, so does the role of victim. The aggressor starts off with verbal abuse, and the victim's response is what takes the aggression to the next level. If the victim is in denial that there is a problem (like many are), then that give the aggressor 'permission' to amp up the aggression. This is not to say the victim is to blame, it just highlights that their inability to recognize these actions as abuse, is used by the aggressor to keep up the aggression. As aggressive acts escalate, the victim is faced with new emotions and responses. They may start feeling uneasy or fearful, but blame themselves and something they're doing. The victim feels that maybe if they tweak this or tweak that, it will solve the problem. Many victims in the early stages find the aggressor's behavior to be puzzling and scary, but not quite alarming to take definitive action.
As time goes on and aggression increases to physical acts, the victim certainly knows there's a problem, but a lot has happened in the interim psychologically, and it's those psychological changes that typically prevent the victim from seeking help or leaving the perpetrator. By then, fear of the aggressor has set in, but so have many other fears, that are often complex and bewildering. As time goes on, the victim learns to go along with the aggressor as a way of preventing abuse. In my case, in the last months I did fear my ex, but I was more fearful of what she would do if she sensed my fear, or sensed I was trying to pull away. It's a carefully choreographed dance between both, neither trusting the other, and both trying to assert their independence or dependence, depending on their role.
LaViolette claims that because Travis did not report Jodi's stalking to the police, that he could not have been very fearful of her. More bullshit. Earlier in her testimony she claimed most female victims refuse to go to the police because they feel the repercussions from the abuser will be more aggressive and serious. I called the police several times about my concerns with my ex, and guess what, I could never convince anyone to take a police report. I was directed to speak to domestic violence counselors in my town, but the police told me that unless I had evidence (photos or recordings), or physical injuries there was little they could do. I had to beg a female officer to take my report about my ex following and contacting my niece. She said there was no crime committed, and the most she would do was call my ex and tell her to leave my niece alone. My brother and sister-in-law then called and the police finally agreed to write up an 'incident report', which is little more than their notes about the conversation, but does not result in an investigation of any kind. So how do we know that Travis never called the police? Just because there is no police report or incident report does not mean he didn't try, and was rebuffed, just as I was.
In my opinion Alyce LaViolette is a disgrace to domestic violence victims, both male and female. She is the farthest thing from an objective witness I've ever seen. She has taken her interviews with a psychopathic murderer, and believed every single word. Does she not have a critical mind? Does she not think that there has to be more to the story? Her reliance on journals, text and email messages is only half the story. Unless Travis and Jodi only communicated by those two methods, she's missing all the verbal conversations in between that were not noted or recorded. Those verbal communications put everything else she's read in the journals, texts, and emails in context.
LaViolette says Jodi is not a liar, yet she asks Martinez if he had ever seen the movie When Harry Met Sally, when he suggests Jodi was having legitimate orgasms during the phone sex convos. If Jodi isn't in the habit of lying, why would she fake the big O? Isn't faking it a lie?
The bottom line, no matter what evidence is placed in front of LaViolette, she's still going to pin the victim button on Jodi. If she was given all the evidence, with references to gender removed I would bet my life that she would come to the 'expert' conclusion that the person who was shot in the face, stabbed 29 times while fighting for their life, and then practically decapitated, was the victim of a gruesome and horrific murder, and that that person could only be the female victim, now deceased, named Jodi Arias.
As long as we're suggesting movies that we feel are fitting with the circumstances, I would like to suggest a movie to Ms. LaViolette—Primal Fear with Richard Gere and Ed Norton. Here's the wiki article about it. Primal Fear Pay careful attention to the final scene Ms. LaViolette, and hope you'll be able to sleep at night afterwards.
Other blogs in this series from a first hand account of life with a psychopathic stalker:
Jodi Arias: Charming Lying Murdering Psychopath
Jodi Arias: Breaking Down The Relationship...
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